Finding “The One” in Your 30s

Dating and finding that special someone is difficult at any age, but once you hit your 30s, it is easy to start worrying that you are too late. Let’s first get that out of the conversation. It is not too late for you to find the one.

Finding the one in your 30s isn’t impossible; it is different, though.

At this age, you might find that there are fewer available singles. You may have had your heart broken a time or two and therefore carry some baggage. You may also be more focused on your career or independence, which doesn’t always lead to successful dating.

None of these things make finding the one in your 30s impossible, though. If you are ready to get serious about dating, here are some of our favorite tips for finding the one in your 30s.

Dating and Finding Love in Your 30s

Not only can these tips help you in your search, but they can also help to calm your anxieties as they relate to finding the one in your 30s.

Don’t Rush

Yes, I know you feel rushed. You feel like you are too old to start dating in hopes of finding the one, but remember, age is only a number.

That goes for yourself and potential matches as well. Neither of you is too old for dating or too old to find the one!

Don’t Be Afraid to Date Someone Older or Younger Than You

As an adult, no rule says you can't be with someone younger or older than you.

If you find yourself considering dating someone in their 20s or 40s but nervous because of the age difference, don’t be!

You may find that age is the only thing that you don’t have in common.

Don’t Be Afraid to Say What You Want

Here’s the thing. If you are in your 30s, you have experienced enough of life to know (for the most part) what you want.

When it comes to dating in your 30s, don’t be afraid to say what you want, and don’t be scared to stick to those wants when looking for the one.

If you don’t feel like you know what you want, now is the time to figure it out.

When you were in your 20s, you may have wanted to date someone who took you to fancy places or drove nice cars. Is that what you want in a life partner, though? Are those the things that are important to you?

Use Area Specific Dating Sites

If you find that you don't have the time to meet people in person, consider trying a dating site. Meeting people online is very popular these days.

There are even dating sites specific to the area you live in. Whether you are dating in Los Angeles or dabbling in online dating apps in your area, you want to find love close to home.

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Don’t Dwell on the Past

Moving into your 30s means that you have likely experienced some heartbreak and probably some negative experiences that have made an impression on you. It happens.

You cannot allow yourself to be jaded or bitter, though. Holding on to these experiences will never affect your relationships in a positive way.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Vulnerable

If you always have your guard up, you can’t ever get close enough to really get to know someone else.

If you hope to find the one, you need to be vulnerable enough to let your guard down with them.

Don’t Settle

You deserve great things in life. You deserve someone that makes you happy and someone that treats you well. You deserve to be with someone that you want to be with. That means that you shouldn’t settle.

30s or not, you have plenty of time so don’t hurry up and settle just because you fear not finding the one.

Have Fun

In your search for the one, make sure that you put some of the focus on simply having fun. Yes, you are in your 30s, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to have fun.

Besides, if you really want to find someone to spend your life with, having fun is a great way to start!

I don’t know about you, but when it comes to spending my life with someone, I want us both to have fun with each other!

Do you think dating is fun or stressful?