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Intimacy is a basic need in any relationship. Connecting with others is a basic need for almost everyone. This form of intimacy is necessary for all types of relationships, such as family, friends, and significant others. For relationships with our significant others, the closeness we maintain can easily be the glue that keeps you together.
Intimacy isn’t just the physical that most people think of; intimacy is both physical and emotional. Both of these forms of intimacy are important for a healthy relationship.
If you are struggling with intimacy in your relationship, don’t worry. You aren’t the only one.
Men and women both are known to struggle with this, but today we are going to chat about women who are trying to figure out how to help a man with intimacy issues. Is this something that you are struggling with?
Dealing With Your Partner’s Fear of Intimacy
If you are ready to learn how to help a man with intimacy issues, let’s dive in! Let’s first start with the typical reasons men have intimacy issues:
Work and life stress can be overwhelming. These stresses can affect many things in life, intimacy included.
Communication (or lack thereof)
Communication itself can be a form of intimacy because our closeness is grown during times of interaction. When you are unable to communicate with your significant other, though, it prevents you from having that real intimacy people crave.
To improve communication with your man, making an effort to focus on strengthening your connection will bring drastic changes to the intimacy in your relationship. Making an effort in these particular areas is especially important:
- Be open and honest during communication.
- Be a good listener.
Depression, Anxiety, Low Self-Esteem, or Anger Issues
Remember the stress that we talked about earlier? The fact is that this stress can contribute heavily to depression and anxiety. These conditions can easily take over a person’s ability to gain intimacy with their partner.
Mental health is a serious concern. 1 in 4 people will deal with a mental health condition at some point in their life, and it can affect a person’s personality. These conditions also affect a couple’s closeness.
These may be discussed with a doctor for further help.
Once you have children, it is easy for the business of raising children to get in the way of your intimacy. Parenting means non-stop diaper changes, messes to be cleaned up, interruptions, lack of sleep, and on and on. It’s exhausting.
As parents, it is essential to put time aside for yourself as well as your children. This is why many couples schedule date nights. It’s important to take the time for your partner.
Improving Intimacy with Your Man
If you want to know how to help a man with intimacy issues, you need to go into it knowing that this needs to be approached with no judgment, and with you willing to be vulnerable with him.
Talk out your problems, ask him what he needs, explain how you are feeling. All of these things will help improve your communication.
Improving your communication will also help you to resolve any conflict that you are dealing with, which is incredibly important to improving intimacy.
Go out and have fun. Exercise together, join a club, or a team together. Just do something together!
Find interests that you both enjoy doing and do them! This time together is a great way to feel more intimate with one another.
Marriage counseling or couples therapy can be a huge benefit when it comes to improving intimacy in a relationship. Websites like ReGain can connect you with a licensed counselor so you can talk through your issues with a professional.
Even if you don’t think that you have issues in your relationship, therapy can help. It can also help a couple learn how to communicate better, which can help improve intimacy.
It is easy to be self-conscious when it comes to intimacy issues, and this is true for men or women. Recognize that before approaching the topic.
The key to figuring out how to help a man with intimacy issues is to communicate with him and to make sure to approach him without judgment. Be willing to listen and understand when he opens up about what may be affecting him.
Just doing these things can improve intimacy in relationships significantly.
Krystle Cook – the creator of Home Jobs by MOM – put her psychology degree on a shelf and dived into a pile of diapers and dishes instead. She is a wife and mother to two rambunctious boys, sweating it out in her Texas hometown. She loves cooking, DIY home projects, and family fun activities.