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Having children is the dream of a lot of couples out there. However, not everyone is so lucky. There are couples that find it very hard to conceive.
Some are experiencing difficulties because they are under so much work stress. Others have physiological issues that make the chances of conception very slim, if not totally nil.
Adoption is a way for those who want kids but can’t seem to conceive to start a family. However, the very idea of adoption is plagued with a lot of misconceptions. In this article, we debunk some of the most common myths about adopting a child.
When a child is adopted, their biological parents lose contact with them
This is only partially true. There are two types of adoption: open and closed. In an open adoption, both the adoptive parents and the biological parents have contact with one another.
SO it’s very possible for the child to know their biological parents. They might even be allowed to be with them during specified times. On the other hand, closed adoption is the exact opposite of this.
Surely, there are advantages and disadvantages to both types. Open and closed adoption attorneys are the best people to consult when you are trying to decide which of the two is going to be more beneficial in your case.
The adoption process is going to take forever
The experience of time is very subjective and context-specific. A person who is enjoying something so much might feel that an hour is too short, but someone who really needs to use the bathroom might cry that a minute is just too long!
If by ‘forever’ they mean that adoption takes five years at the very least, then that’s very wrong.
For many families, adoptions are finalized within just a year after they’ve submitted all their paperwork. Yes, the process can take time, but it’s never agonizingly long as many naysayers would want you to think.
Adopted children are more likely going to become troubled adolescents and adults
Just to be very clear, yes, some kids who are adopted do become troublesome adolescents and adults. But their number is not significantly more than the number of troubled individuals who grew up with their biological families.
With this, it can be inferred that the cause of the troublesome behavior observed is not really the fact that they are adopted. Other factors might be at play — personality, parenting style, and community involvement are just some of the usual suspects.
And these very same factors also operate in the lives of children who live with their biological families.
Adoptions are costly
Now, this is true. Just looking at the numbers, adoptions in Texas and elsewhere in the United States can cost thousands of dollars. However, this is not going to be shouldered by the adoptive family alone.
There are a lot of programs both through the government and the private sector that aim to lessen the burden on families and individuals adopting a child.
Some people get so lucky that their costs become zero after they get all the reimbursements that they qualify for.
Adopting a child is such a noble act. No one should be discouraged from doing it just because of faulty beliefs.
Krystle Cook – the creator of Home Jobs by MOM – put her psychology degree on a shelf and dived into a pile of diapers and dishes instead. She is a wife and mother to two rambunctious boys, sweating it out in her Texas hometown. She loves cooking, DIY home projects, and family fun activities.