Before becoming a good friend, kids need to have all the skills necessary to attain a meaningful relationship. Working on their character, and finding value within them, kids will be able to find and surround themselves with equally caring, and loving friends. Kids will learn that with friendship, you can always have someone to talk to, who makes you laugh, feel good about yourself, and make each day an adventure. But, in teaching kids to become good friends, parents are ultimately teaching their kids meaningful life skills that will help them become better people, and improve their quality of life.
Kids admire parents, and look to them for guidance, so explain the important role friendship has in your life, to encourage your children to make friends of their own. Inspire kids to associate friendship with positive feelings, by creating an environment that values friendship. Let them meet your friends, allowing them to see first-hand what to expect of friendship. Once kids demonstrate the desire to have friends, create events that will help them. From a young age, organize play dates, or take them to public playgrounds. Kids are naturally curious and open, so their thirst for discovery will inspire them to initiate interaction. While you will have a chance to monitor their development, address behavioral problems, and expose them to the right social values.
To teach kids to maintain meaningful friendships, and become good friends, they need to exhibit the right social values people care about. Learning to be polite, and well-mannered around others will make them become socially accepted and more likable. Being polite displays respect, and reveals how being good to others, relies on you being good to them. Exposing kids to grandparents can be a great way to learn how to respect elders. Their wealth of knowledge can also teach those polite ways of navigating different social circumstances, which they can later use during interactions with friends and peers.
Quality Communication Skills
For the most part, friendships revolve around good communication. How well children can express, and acknowledge thoughts and emotions determines how well they get along with others. Learning to listen and take turns during conversations, means they take an interest, and stay open-minded to what the other has to say. Children also need to support their friends, and use assertive communication when dealing with conflicts, instead of cruelty and violence. Together with truthfulness, this creates trust, as the foundation for a meaningful relationship. Once they achieve this, they will have a person to confide to, who makes them feel good about themselves.
Learning to be Considerate Helps Make Friends
Promoting empathy in kids will help them connect emotionally to people, and be more considerate of their feelings. They will learn to control their own emotions and help them relate to their friends. As empathy raises social awareness, kids will become more sympathetic, and learn to provide comfort. If your child shows signs of bad or abusive behavior, use positive reinforcement, and ask them how they would feel in that situation. By making them think about how their actions might affect others, they will be governed by their own conscience, and become tolerant and helpful people.
Quality Social Exposure throughout Each Day
Because today’s working parents lack the time to rely on their kids’ positive social exposure throughout the day, it may be a good idea to enroll them in professional child care centers. Taking a step back may be hard, but there is no better way to learn social skills than through experience. Structured educational programs of early learning centers, also provide a way kids can develop their skills during the entire day. While fun activities they can enjoy will allow them to pick up on like-minded kids, and make friends in no time.
Sharing Means Caring
At the end of the day, it all comes down to how well your kids value their own character that will help them find value in others. Together with the right set of social skills, you will teach them how to make friends, and steer them onto the road of social acceptance. In reaching their full potential, they will achieve meaningful relationships, become better people, and good friends for life.
What's your best tip for making a new friend?
Being a good friend is definitely a life skill I want my kids to have. It seems like everything is so focused on digital these days that it can sometimes be lost in the shuffle.
When I was pregnant, the husband and I talked about how we wanted our child to be. We came down to we want him to be generous, polite and kind above all. Hopefully we’ll do right. =)
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So many great tips here! I did not choose to go the daycare route because I wanted to be there with my kids but I agree with everything else.
If all kids could start school with meaningful life skills they would be a step ahead of the game. School rules and expectations are a big change for kids and many are not ready.
I love the idea of teaching the kids to be good friends, it’s something that’s pretty rare these days. Teaching them to respect people and to be kind can help a lot too, aside from that, showing compassion is something that also adds to being a good friend. I love the tips that you have here.
I love this so much! We are working hard on this with my 2nd grader. If you want good friends. Be a good friend.
These are all so true. In this world, it is so important to have these qualities. We need to raise strong, kind children.
Teresa | Simply Made Fun
I love this list! It’s so important to learn how to interact with people, build friendships and learn what types of people will help build you up and which ones will tear you down. I definitely agree with everything in this post!
Loving the politeness and communication reminders. Those seem to be fading out and its just so frightening to think that children will not have those foundation skill set in place.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
These are great tips. I think my girls are great at all of these and learn from their friends. My son, who is super quiet and shy has a harder time with these qualities. We are still working on him
This is such a great post. I feel like my mom taught me a lot of these same lessons while I was growing up. This is a great post ! xx
I am always amazed at how easily my son makes friends. He is part of such a diverse group of friends that it’s pretty cool to see.
I know what you mean. Kids make friends so easily. It’s so much harder for adults 🙁